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22 July 2015 @ 08:33 pm
it's all about perspective  
I posted this on Facebook, but I felt the need to share it here too. Because... just because.

It's no secret that I'm a big gal, easily one of the biggest I know. So it's no surprise that children don't usually know what to make of me, especially the very young ones. They often point me out to their parents or whisper about me. A few have even asked me directly why I'm so fat. I never take offense. Kids are kids.

Today was different. While picking up my nieces and nephews, a group of four pre-teen boys (old enough to know better) gathered behind me making rude comments about my big butt. I ignored them and escorted my young family out of the building.

All the way home, I couldn't help wondering at the peace filling my heart. After all, I'd just been ridiculed for my size. But I realized that those rude boys didn't matter. Kids have been making fun of me for one thing or other my whole life, even before I gained weight. People who want to put other people down will always find some reason. No, the only person who really matters is ME. I'm the one who has to meet these eyes in the mirror every day and live with the person I find looking back at me. And lemme tell ya, these eyes are gorgeous! This gal is gorgeous!  And there's a lot of me to love!

So, while I'm working to lose weight, and I AM losing weight, I'm going to keep loving me where I am.

raloria - Screencapping Goddessraloria on July 23rd, 2015 02:42 am (UTC)
I know I tell you this all the time, but it's only because it's true...you rock! I'm not sure I would've been able to shake off those mean-spirited comments so easily.

You go girl! *hugs* :D
Wynefredwynefred on July 23rd, 2015 07:04 pm (UTC)
Thanks! My main concern is when this sort of thing happens in front of my family. They aren't as good at shaking it off as I am. I hate that they hurt for me, are embarrassed for me (rather than of me). This sort of thing has caused my family pain. That tears me up.
borgmama1of5borgmama1of5 on July 23rd, 2015 03:54 am (UTC)
I only know you from the things you've written on LJ--and I have always seen your beautiful heart in your writing!

Wynefredwynefred on July 23rd, 2015 07:23 pm (UTC)
Thanks. I appreciate that. *Hugs*
supernutjapan: You're a starsupernutjapan on July 23rd, 2015 07:06 am (UTC)

People who make fun of others have the least self confidence themselves, which is why they feel the need to put others down in the first place.

I have no doubt you will attain whatever goal you have <3<3
Wynefredwynefred on July 23rd, 2015 07:25 pm (UTC)
You're right. I try to remember that these were still children and that, though they were somewhat older, it's still not too late for them to learn. I just hope someone has the patience to teach them and that their hearts are open enough to learn.
alleysweeperalleysweeper on July 23rd, 2015 07:19 am (UTC)
I only know the LJ you, but you have, and always will be, beautiful to me. ♥
Wynefredwynefred on July 23rd, 2015 07:25 pm (UTC)
Thank you! :D
milly_galmilly_gal on July 23rd, 2015 07:24 am (UTC)
Look bb, you rock and roll! I am so proud of you for not only taking your health in your hands, but also for ignoring such nasty horrid comments and realising that they don't matter! We love you, I think you're gorgeous!
Wynefredwynefred on July 23rd, 2015 07:27 pm (UTC)
Thanks Milly. I just hope those boys learn compassion before they really hurt someone. I may have thick skin, but not everyone does. Silly boys. :P
milly_galmilly_gal on July 25th, 2015 12:51 pm (UTC)
They'll learn the hard way hun, but sometimes that's what's needed! Just keep your head held high and know we think you're amazing!
Kallielkalliel on July 23rd, 2015 01:25 pm (UTC)
I was scrolling up from the bottom of my flist, so I saw the photograph before I read the text--and my first thought was, wow, that is such a beautiful picture. Having now read the text, this so MUCH MORE a beautiful picture, because there's so much peace and affirmation and love to your words. Thank you for sharing this moment with us! <3333
Wynefredwynefred on July 23rd, 2015 07:30 pm (UTC)
You are so sweet. Thank you. I must say, I'm pleased with the giant smile in the pic. But then, my favorite goofy uncle is sitting next to me. It's very likely he's entertaining us all with his antics again. Heehee.
tracys_dreamtracys_dream on July 23rd, 2015 08:46 pm (UTC)
Lovely pic! It's so nice to see you. *waves*
I've had kids call me names and it did hurt me at first but now I won't let people that don't matter to me have any effect on me.
Dizzojay's Dean Dreamsdizzojay on July 23rd, 2015 09:25 pm (UTC)
Good for you, I'm so glad you can love yourself, because so many people can't

Sadly, there will always be ignorance in the world, and that ignorance is the problem of the people themselves, not the ones that ignorance is aimed at.

As someone far cleverer than me once said, the people who matter don't mind, and the people who mind don't matter.

Michelleseramercury on July 24th, 2015 12:35 pm (UTC)
You go girl! You're beautiful the way you are!!
casey: spn s/d big hugcasey28 on July 27th, 2015 02:19 am (UTC)
It's wonderful that you can rise above the cruel comments and appreciate your true beauty. *hugs*
metallidean_grlmetallidean_grl on September 12th, 2015 02:53 am (UTC)
I am so proud of you for loving yourself the way you do. I've had a lot of insecurities and have been called names, and times like that have bothered me. You can't help how our family feels when they witness the cruelty, you can't help them deal with it either, but you just can't help but love them all the more.

You have the best and healthiest attitude when it comes to your weight and losing your weight. Before anyone can really and truly lose weight, they need to love themselves and want to lose it for the right reason. Not for a boy, for family, for something else, you have to want to do it for yourself, and for a healthy reason. You are there, my friend. So, more power to you. It may be slow going, but if you continue to have this healthy perspective and keep trying, it will happen for you.